feat: replace Directus with custom Node.js GraphQL backend

Removes Directus 11 and replaces it with a lean, purpose-built backend:
- packages/backend/: Fastify v5 + GraphQL Yoga v5 + Pothos (code-first)
  with Drizzle ORM, Redis sessions (session_token cookie), argon2 auth,
  Nodemailer, fluent-ffmpeg, and full gamification system ported from bundle
- Frontend: @directus/sdk replaced by graphql-request v7; services.ts fully
  rewritten with identical signatures; directus.ts now re-exports from api.ts
- Cookie renamed directus_session_token → session_token
- Dev proxy target updated 8055 → 4000
- compose.yml: Directus service removed, backend service added (port 4000)
- Dockerfile.backend: new multi-stage image with ffmpeg
- Dockerfile: bundle build step and ffmpeg removed from frontend image
- data-migration.ts: one-time script to migrate all Directus/sexy_ tables

Co-Authored-By: Claude Sonnet 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>

packages/backend/drizzle.config.ts

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+import { defineConfig } from "drizzle-kit";
+
+export default defineConfig({
+  schema: "./src/db/schema/index.ts",
+  out: "./src/migrations",
+  dialect: "postgresql",
+  dbCredentials: {
+    url: process.env.DATABASE_URL || "postgresql://sexy:sexy@localhost:5432/sexy",
+  },
+});