fix(stacks): widen pull retry window and jitter the nightly update timer

Nightly update pulls for coolify/immich kept hitting transient ghcr.io
toomanyrequests errors and getting skipped, because the timer fired at
exactly 02:00:00 Europe/Amsterdam (the same instant countless other
hosts' cron/timer jobs also hit registries) and the retry loop only
spanned ~15s (3 attempts, 5/10/15s backoff) — not enough to ride out
the burst.

- Widen pull retries to 5 attempts with 20/40/60/80s backoff (~3+ min).
- Add RandomizedDelaySec=1800 to the update timer (and its install
  template) so this host's pulls no longer land on the exact
  top-of-hour thundering herd.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Sonnet 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01XmtksEEYSBZqUacw3qF1A9

bin/stacks

@@ -431,16 +431,16 @@ _update_run() {
     #     through to the change check — otherwise a stale image looks
     #     "up to date" forever (this is what stuck coolify). ---
     local pull_ok=false attempt
-    for attempt in 1 2 3; do
+    for attempt in 1 2 3 4 5; do
       if (cd "$stack_dir" && docker compose "${env_flag[@]}" pull 2>&1); then
         pull_ok=true
         break
       fi
-      warn "  Pull failed for $stack (attempt $attempt/3)"
-      [[ $attempt -lt 3 ]] && sleep $((attempt * 5))
+      warn "  Pull failed for $stack (attempt $attempt/5)"
+      [[ $attempt -lt 5 ]] && sleep $((attempt * 20))
     done
     if ! $pull_ok; then
-      err "  Pull failed for $stack after 3 attempts — skipping (not recreated)"
+      err "  Pull failed for $stack after 5 attempts — skipping (not recreated)"
       skipped+=("$stack")
       continue
     fi
@@ -540,6 +540,7 @@ Description=Daily Docker stacks image update at 2:00 AM
 
 [Timer]
 OnCalendar=*-*-* 02:00:00 Europe/Amsterdam
+RandomizedDelaySec=1800
 Persistent=true
 
 [Install]